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If there is anything you want me to talk about, let me know in this section. I will consider all suggestions. Whether it’s a new WordPress theme you like and think I should change my blog to that, or something you heard in the news. Leave youtube links, other blog links and any subject you want me to discuss or comment on in this section.


6 Responses to “reader input”
  1. MeAndMine says:

    Hmmmm. Why did you close Comments on your Oct. 3 Posting, “Section 8 Hoodrats….,” at this point, nearly ten days after it went up?

    Seems like there was a very energetic “conversation” taking place…..

    • actually i took your advice from the last comment you posted. unless of course i misread you. correct me if i’m wrong but you said you diidnt think it was very mature to let people bait me and anger me into calling them names. that is the message you were trying to convey right? and though it was energetic i wouldnt call it a “conversation”

  2. candogoods says:

    Don’t know if you have written about this already but I would like to see you write about the some of the poor work ethic you see among some black women who work in public situations. If they want to be competitive some things have to change.

  3. Nate says:

    I’m a white man married to a black woman. I live in a northern region where there haven’t been very many black people until recently. A beautiful black woman walking these streets is guaranteed to be noticed, but not in a negative way. I tell my wife that people are looking at her because she’s ‘exotic,’ but they don’t mean anything unkind by it. Perhaps among white women there is some jealosy, because my wife still fits the same jeans she wore in high school.

    She was my first black friend. It started a little awkward because I was aware of all the stupidity of racism, but it was all theory and no experience. We live where nobody would think of discriminating against a black person and yet, historically we’ve discriminated against our own aboriginal people in so many terrible ways.

    After being with a person of another race for awhile, all that stuff just vanishes. Skin colour is so superficial and unimportant that one wonders what all the fuss is about. Actually, you stop thinking about it because ordinary life together is so ordinary and you must solve all the ordinary problems of a marriage and they have nothing to do with the amount of melanin in your skin.

    About the only racial issue that remains for us is hair. Many black women place extraordinary importance on their hair and to any white guy who’s considering dating a black woman I would warn that black hair is a potential minefield. Don’t touch it and don’t mention it. Don’t say ‘Boy it sure is kinky’ if you don’t intend to sleep on the couch. Above all, don’t suggest that your black woman just leave it ‘natural.’ They don’t want natural hair; they want chemically-treated, silky, straight hair of some unnatural colour. Usually it ends-up being some other woman’s hair. Go figure.

    Ignore the racial nonsense going on around you. Racists are idiots and the longer you listen-to or hang-around idiots, the more idiotic you yourself will become. Arguing with an idiot is pointless and fruitless, too. Associate with people who have excellent character traits and you will find somebody – maybe in a contrasting colour – to be your lifelong companion. I wish you luck in the wonderful city of Boston!

    • “They don’t want natural hair; they want chemically-treated, silky, straight hair of some unnatural colour. Usually it ends-up being some other woman’s hair. Go figure.”

      i had to cringe at that. not all women are like that. a lot of my aunts are natural. some went back and forth some have always been natural. my hair is relaxed but never a weave or dyed. every woman is different.

      but yes we put a lot of importance on hair. but it’s all from external pressure. when you grow up being told the only beautiful girls are the one with long flowing hair then yes, it makes you insecure around a man if you don’t have that. we only care as much as you do.

  4. Nate says:

    I only associate with a limited subset of black women – mostly my wife’s family and friends – so it’s possible that my generalizations about hair are wrong. I will agree that the older generation seem more comfortable with natural hair. Young girls seem to go that way until puberty and then douse it with chemicals!

    Natural black hair is beautiful. I like it very much but nothing I say will convince my wife to wear it that way. Society – mostly the black women we see in the media – has more pull than I do.

    What concerns me most is the effect on our children. I don’t want them pressured into looking ‘white’ or ‘black.’ They should be comfortable with themselves exactly as they are. The one outside the womb is exceedingly cute; I’m sure the sibling in the womb will be too.

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